Whether you choose to pursue your anger management program in private
(not recommended), or work in the context of a class or program there
will come a day when your planning and preparations are over and you
must get started actually changing your anger behavior. Since pursuing
an anger management program is work, it will take some commitment on
your part to follow it through to the point where you will see positive
results. The following techniques and ideas are suggested because they
give structure to your program and help you sustain your commitment.
You will not benefit from any anger management program if you do not
follow that program systematically, regardless of the obstacles that
will inevitably challenge you along the way.
Go With The Program
You will dramatically improve your chances of making progress with an
anger management program if you get yourself into a professionally
designed and led anger management program. Professionally designed and
led anger management programs shield you from having to think about how
to design your own program and let you instead focus on the hard work
of changing your behavior, They also provide you with group support
from peers and from the program leader which can help you sustain the
motivation to continue when the going gets rough. Support can be
technical (suggesting effective new ways to manage anger) or emotional
(recognizing how difficult it can be to change). You can receive
support yourself, and give it to others as well when you are in a group
program. Sometimes helping someone else to succeed can provide you with
the motivation you need to succeed yourself.
If you can't locate a program or know that you're just not a joiner and
won't do well in a formal program, you should still do as much as you
can to surround yourself with an already-laid out program structure to
follow, and one or more people who can help support you in your
efforts. Simply put, having social support and structure for your anger
management efforts helps you to succeed.
The Internet offers many opportunities for anger management support. Online communities such as AngerMgmt.com and AngerManagementOnline.com
offer chat and bulletin board forums that allow people working on anger
issues to share tips with one another anonymously. If you decide to use
these sorts of online support systems, please keep in mind that online
communities are not always polite places and discussions can become
provocative or even anger-provoking. This probably won't phase you if
you have an anger problem, but then again, it is good to know what you
are likely to encounter.