It is not always a choice to participate in an anger management
program. More and more, courts are willing to require that people who
have demonstrated an unwillingness (or inability) to control their
anger attend anger management classes. Employers may also mandate that
quarrelsome employees attend anger management programs, often sponsored
through the employee assistance program.
If you have been mandated to attend anger management classes or
programs it is especially vital that you make the best of of the
situation and participate fully in the offered program. Although it may
not have been your decision to seek help for your temper, it is
important that you realize that the object of the anger management
program is ultimately to help you;
to give you more options and to help you control yourself so that
others don't have to control you instead (e.g., by firing you,
divorcing you, or putting you into jail). Learning how to use anger
more productively will make your life better and decrease your
risk for serious disease and an early death. Keeping this understanding
firmly in mind will help you participate in and benefit from your
mandated anger management program.
You must commit to follow through with the program and be open to
learning and practicing the techniques offered in the program if your
behavior is to change. The only way you can be successful in an anger
management program is to do what it takes to make the program work.
Keep in mind that there will be likely be negative consequences if you
fail, such as the loss of your spouse or the loss of your job. Should
you fail at a mandated anger management program, your failure will not
be a reflection of the programâ€™s inability to help you, but rather a
reflection of your unwillingness to cooperate. Real change cannot take
place without your cooperation. Regardless of how you come to an anger
management program, donâ€™t abuse a sincere opportunity to change your
life for the better.